Older WOMAN, Younger MAN in Marriage

The world has changed a lot and it keeps changing. The past was far beyond the present. And the changes are quite obvious.

Centuries ago, men normally searched for women at least in their age or mostly younger than them. This is due to the norms in the past, making women subject for men. Men in the past ruled and dominated, making them the authority at home as well as in the society. At that time woman's opinion are rarely accepted. And mostly, they are rejected and taken without importance.

Since people evolved in their way of living, concepts, views and approaches also transcend. The present turns out to be the total opposite of the past at times.

Today, relationships and even marriages is assimilated adversely by most conservatives. And one of the issues which are commonly misunderstood is the marriage between an older woman and a younger man.

Unavoidably true, man nowadays tend to look for woman older than them. A few contradict but the trend is unstoppable. In America and in some parts of Europe, the case is not already taken as an issue. Recently, a few in some parts of Asia embraces it.

Among them, thousands of couple are believed to be successful. It proves that huge age gaps and age differences between spouses doesn't really affects the success in marriage.

How many old people act immature? How many older husbands pass their burdens to their younger wives? And how many marriages turn out happy even in the huge differences? It's the understanding and love that matters not the said differences.

Perhaps, the world has opened its eyes and consider things even if it's far beyond the norms. I for one agree that age doesn't matter but the maturity of the person does.

Is it wrong to Cohabit?

Who says what’s good and what’s not? WE. Only people justifies everything that's going on in this world. Only people implement rules to make things justifiable. For it’s actually us alone that defines what’s is supposed to be done.

Looking back to the History of mankind when man was still simple and do not possess that complicity of the mind, man was happy and contented. And during this time legal partnership still didn't exist. Couples were united not just because of a certain ceremony but because they have to follow a particular tradition.

Most ancient societies needed a secure environment for the perpetuation of the species, a system of rules to handle the granting of property rights, and the protection of bloodlines. The institution of marriage handled these needs.

But things change as time pass by. The simplicity of life has transformed into a much complex world. And so man build rules to mandate everyone and to stick to it in order to maintain peace.

But when did man define marriage? When did man started to think that partnership should only be between two people? And so marriage was born. At first was it really for morality? No. Never. That was never the purpose of it. And here is another thing, most couples in the past didn’t marry because they were in love but for economic liaisons and to follow the decisions from parents.

So why do we condemn and criticize those people who stay together and love. They may not be legally bound with each other but they fall in love. I think that's the most important thing about it.

Cohabit. Moral or immoral? I don't think so. It's not that it's a trend but it's like going back to our past. So, I never believe that it’s all wrong to cohabit, fall in love forever, respect each other and live life as a couple without the legality of marriage.

What is wrong is when you belittle a persons status. For what? For you to be lifted up?

Where does confidence really come from?

Some people appear naturally confident but guess what? They've learned how to be that way from just a single idea. How did it happen and who instill that idea?

A child usually possesses ideas but limited. And this ideas are fragile, changeable and easily thrown away. Every idea instilled in the mind of a child is as important as a seed planted in the soil. Every mind is capable of raising an idea. And every idea has the ability to transform a person.

Let's take a look at great men in the world. Let's mention a few like Leonardo the Vinci, Benjamin Franklin, Pierre and Marie Curie including Irene their daughter. Why do you think they became great? Why have they proven something? Was it just natural? Was it all fate? Sometimes we say yes. But it wasn't as simple as that.

Sometimes it's hard to believe that simple ideas like "You can do it!" or " I believe you" is already a big deal for a vulnerable mind such as that of a child. Let us not forget that an example of faith from the people in an environment could be the seed of a child's faith as well.

So parents install the greatest part of the confidence that a single child possesses. And this is acquired through the gestures and words that any parent could do.

I've seen a few children who are afraid of taking exams or joining competitions. Why do you think they behave this way? And why others are not? Because it's all in the mind. Everyone is not worried about failing but anxious about losing the confidence that the closest people have upon each of us.

Why the people I've mention above became great? It's all because they had the trust and the faith that their loved one's had to them. Great trust I believe. It made a person fully confident. And surely raise another confident person like Pierre and Marie Curie.

How a broken relationship turns into friendship

You may be thinking that there is no way you can get your ex and regain the charm in your love life. For hundreds of reasons people had a hard time patching a broken relationship. A few never give up and a few tries to fix it. Some people made it but some unfortunately didn't.

A broken relationship is as hard as you are fixing a broken mirror. They may be attached to each other but there is no way for you to see a clearer reflection again. One way or another, the relationship will be broken again and again. Repeatedly as a cycle. And that may hurt someone more than just letting go of it.

But there's another option to do. A better option. That prerogative is not to forget the person and believe he or she never exist which is somehow a stupid action.

Who can ever forget a person you once shared with? In good times or bad, a person once crosses to your path can never be forgotten.What about the time you invested and the moments you've shared? Were they just nothing? No, not for sure.

The alternative that I'm talking about is to have your ex lover--your friend. Isn't that better. With it, the time spent was not in vain but be a part of a good relationship instead.

How can that be possible? How can you be friend to the person who once cheated you and hurt you? Remember nothing is impossible. Here are few tips to do it.

First, is the acceptance that your relationship won't work when you stay as a lover. Second, is forgiveness to the person that once cause you mental pain. And third is to give way to the relationship to just being friends.

Would that be easy? No, not at all. For many would rather forget what happen and leave it. But one thing, I know a few who ended good and never regretted that they've chosen to become friends. which made them happier than what they used to have.

Why Filipinos are qualified to write and get payed?

Who could ever thought anybody can write and get payed? In the Philippine, it's never in the mind of most people that writing sensible articles can be a job. But this doesn't mean they don't know how to write. Thousands of Filipinos love to write and even be more creative about it.

Yes, earning is what make other people move. In the Philippines, people don't really think that earning can be as simple as staying at home. Here in the country, almost all people think that you have to go to work punch in and out in the company and get payed in a day.

English is widely used in the country and it has been proven already by many. Over 90% speaks well and even write. But this people hardly believe in earning by just using one's spare time. Who could ever believe that?

Funny but I was once like them. Long before, I laughed at articles-- writing about how to earn money by writing. But then I have this friend who gave me the link here and write articles. I love writing. That's usually my breakfast. But earning through it? I realized it can be possible.

There are thousands of feed that welcome freelance writer to post there articles and earn through it. Here in Bukisa you can see people earned thousands of bucks already just by writing.

Writing? "That sounds hard." "That sounds heavy." A common notions for people who don't give a heck. I perfectly understand. I sympathize. But earning through writing doesn't really mean to be like that.

Filipinos, I believe, possess a quality that made them qualified to be a writer and get paid. Millions of graduates and degree holders just stay idle at home doing nothing and not being productive. What are those degrees for? A few work under-employed and never receive a good compensation. Why endure all these predicaments? Why not do other jobs that do more than the usual. Why not write?

Now I'm inviting my friends to take a glance and write as well. With this I'm helping them. And they help themselves.

Consequences Are

Today, I'm supposed to have myself set to go home. The usual. It's Friday, I need to be there. Yet there's no possibility. Many things try to hamper me. I now started to worry. I don't care how people will judge me, but I'm sure all I wanted is just an escape of what we call reality.

I am supposed to play with them this weekend, I'm supposed to hug them and be with them in this three days vacation. But how will I do that. The chances are thin and serious. Yet, I still didn't lost my hope. The one that my God has given me. I just remember my student Mr. Z, he is an optimist and just simply say, "I don't care about what will be family look like in the future? All I need is to be better and be flexible." Now I now. I need to stretch myself to that situation. I'm sure it will be fun and I'll miss them when there gone.

Planning For Marriage

How many people are looking at the possibilities of gettig married? Now that the commodities isn't stable? Now when everything is high and expensive? I can understand why people don't want to. I really don't wanna argue or question those people who don't feel like getting married. Who don't want to risk the uncertainty of life. This isn't an issue of just marrige life that be faced in the future but beyond that. I myself then try to question the possibilities. It's not good to mistrust oneself. But who else can trust. Even the richest people tend to backlash with the fight because they also felt the crisis of life, how much more us--ordinary people? People who just rely on the small pay that we recieve. I don't know when can we get over with this poor life. If you have answers tell me what?

Now a days, I want to feel that I'm also afraid to do it. But how can I say no to my husband? How will I explain the situation? I guess there is no way out anymore but face it. Discover the better window that alters the light that covers the possibilities undesired. I so love my baby. I will do everything for him. No matter what will happen.I will never say no to a fight I know it's worth it.